We are so delighted to host Steve Piscitelli, studio member, as our blog guest submission for April. He is an inspiration and community mentor in the Jacksonville Beaches area. Enjoy his motivating blog post!
A Tweet read, “Please don’t bring your agenda today. Bring your love, prayers, heart and support to those who have been hurt and are hurting.”
“Please don’t bring your agenda today.” While I assume only the best intentions by the tweeter, those words bothered me.
I remembered a conversation I had had years ago with a mentor. On that day I had sought his advice about a personal issue. I said, as a way of apologizing for taking his time, something to the effect of, “Isn’t there a verse in the Bible that speaks about feeling bad for yourself because you have no shoes. Until you see someone with no feet. Then you recognize how insignificant your issue is.”
My mentor did not miss a beat. “Yes, that may be true. But those shoe-less feet, they are still your feet.”
In essence, he told me not to short-sell my agenda.
While others may suffer far more than you, it is not about comparatory suffering. It’s not about being cavalier about others. It’s not about shining the spotlight on yourself for a self-congratulatory, self-centered me-me-me moment. It is about paying attention to your core needs that resonate with your core values. This is not about selfishness. It is more about your life, relationships, growth, and resilience.
Regardless of what happens in the world today, your world continues. Your agenda (your list of things to be done) does not disappear. Your children. Your community. Your health and well-being. Your healthcare insurance. Your significant other(s). Your debt. Your food insecurity. Your suffering loved one. Your savings account. Your community activism. Your issues, trials, tribulations, strife, successes, failures, collaborations, family, friends, and resilience mean something to you and to others.
Do not let anyone discount your agenda.
Steve Piscitelli is an author, keynote speaker, workshop facilitator, and a retired professor. You can find resources and more about Steve and The Growth and Resilience Network® at www.stevepiscitelli.com. This blog post adapted from a post on The Growth and Resilience Network® blog (October 8, 2017).